Recovery is Possible

annibannanni:

1. I will tell my friends and family when their teasing crosses the line and hurts my feelings.
2. When people ask me to do something I don’t want to do or don’t have time for, I will say “no.” Politely, of course, but no excuses or apologies are necessary.
3. I will make “no” mean “no” — not “okay, fine, if you nag me enough, yes. 
4. I will say something when another person takes advantage of me or hurts my feelings, instead of silently letting it fester.
5. If I’m on an awful date/at an awful party/on an awful phone call, there is no need to subject myself to misery. I can just get up and leave/hang up the phone.
6. I will be more protective of my personal time when it comes to other people’s disorganization and crazy schedules.
7. I will communicate what I need and why, instead of assuming other people can figure it out on their own. Surprisingly, a lot of people are terrible about understanding other people’s needs, wants and desires unless explicitly told.
8. When someone makes a racist, sexist or homophobic comment or joke, I will call them out whether it is directed at me or not.
9. I will refuse to be guilt tripped or join in on other people’s guilt trips. If someone else feels guilty about XYZ and lets that behavior determine their decisions, I don’t have to jump on board, too. Especially ifI don’t feel guilty at all.   
10. I will remind myself every day, if need be, that I’m a smart, sensitive, caring, thoughtful, and good-intentioned person and at the end of the day, loving myself is what matters most.